Why Don’t You Just

If there was one phrase I could snap my fingers to make unutterable forevermore, it would be “why don’t you just …?”1

Someone is talking about a problem, or an achievement, or an idea, and the inevitable dismissive smartass pipes up and asks “Why don’t you just (move to a different apartment / adopt / rewrite it in Rust / eat more vegetables / mount your FTP account locally with curlftpfs, and then use SVN on the mounted filesystem)?”

“Why don’t you just?” is so second nature in my old field, physics, that XKCD made a comic about it: “So why does your field need a whole journal, anyway?”

“Why don’t you just?” means “I’ve thought about what you said for five seconds and I’m so smart that I really believe what I came up with in those five seconds is more valuable than whatever YOU thought of.”

“Why don’t you just?” means “I don’t trust you to do your own thinking.”

Sometimes “Why don’t you just?” even means “let me show you how smart I am by asking you why you didn’t just do something that I know won’t even work, and make YOU explain it to test if you’re as smart as me.”

The only possible answer to “Why don’t you just?” should be “If I could just, then I would just.”

…most of the time.

The tricky part is that sometimes, “Why don’t you just?” is the right question to ask, with the wrong wording. When you’re guiding people who are inexperienced at something, sometimes they do miss the obvious, easy solution. Or even experienced people miss it sometimes.

In those cases, how do you help them out without insulting their intelligence? Because “Why don’t you just?” is all about “me smart, you dumb”. The key is to put aside your ego and accept that this time, you may not get a chance to show that you are smart. First of all, check whether it is really the right time and place to give criticism! It might not be. If it is, then it’s a great rule of thumb to assume that they already tried the obvious thing you are about to suggest. That way, if they didn’t think of it themselves, they feel flattered and can save face. And if they did think of it or try it already, then you allow them to shine by explaining their thought process. Try something like “The way that I might have solved that problem is X. Would that also work in your situation?” Or “Stop me if you tried this already, but the way I’d have tackled it would be X.”

So, why don’t you just stop saying “why don’t you just?”

[1] Well, actually, I’d probably pick well, actually

9 thoughts on “Why Don’t You Just

  1. As one of the senior guys on a dev team, my usual approach is along the lines of “last time I hit a problem like this, it was because I’d missed something obvious… so let’s step back a bit and make sure we’re not doing the same here”.

    I find it softens the blow of making a stupid mistake when the expert is reminding you that he didn’t become the expert without learning from a lot of his own stupid mistakes.

  2. I mentioned the same thing last month: https://crussell-fritter.hashbase.io/?post=0jtqcabcv

    The phrase and the entire sentiment behind it is something that has bothered me for a while. Recently I realized, as I wrote on Fritter, that when it’s misapplied—which is tends to be the case wherever the phrase shows up—what it’s really signalling is a not-very-insightful attempt to ignore or dismiss the constraints that define a problem. Which is dumb, of course, because as long as you’re willing to ignore inconvenient constraints, then you can frame *every* hard problem as being “easy”.

  3. Thanks for this post. I’ve definitely used ‘Can we instead just…’ many times as an attempt to not sound rude but still indicate that I think my proposal is simpler 🙂 I think I need to be suspect of usage of ‘just’ or ‘simply’ in email responses

  4. This post surprises me a bit. I totally get the sentiment, but as someone who invariably finds themselves in a position of ignorance, if I say “why don’t you do this…?” I almost always mean “I’m sure you’ve already tried this, but to help my understanding can you please explain to me what the problem is with doing this…” Maybe that sounds patronising, but it’s not meant to be. It’s meant to be a cue to demonstrate that I’m interested and want to know more.

    • Not coincidentally, “I’m sure you’ve already tried this, but to help my understanding can you please explain to me what the problem is with doing this…” is basically what I advocate saying instead of WDYJ… if that’s what you mean, then say what you mean 😆

      • Or to paraphrase you ‘Why don’t you just say “The way that I might have solved that problem is X. Would that also work in your situation?”‘ 😉

        Of course, I always try to say what I mean. I’m just surprised there’s so much variance in interpretation here.

  5. THANK YOU for this post (and the related comments). This has been driving me nuts for a while, where I often see it on technical forums. Yet I see very few discussions or rants about the topic. I would actually broaden my complaint by leaving out “just”. The whole feeling of any “why don’t you” response is that it demands that the question-asker explain and justify their reasons for not already accepting the offered wisdom. This is in addition to the implication already discussed above that the question-asker surely must have already known this answer, and must have a reason for not using it. Either that or the question-asker is stupid.

    I wouldn’t go through too many touchy-feely hoops to avoid this construction. I would simply replace “why don’t you” with “I would probably” or “I have found”. Why wouldn’t you all do this?? 🙂

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